The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Remember that tomorrow when you are trying to get somebody to do something. If, for example, you don't want your children to smoke, don't preach at them, and don't talk about what you want; but show them that cigarettes may keep them from making the basketball team or winning the hundred-yard dash.

سلطان محمود، هركسى كه مذهبى غير از مذهب تسنن داشت، به عنوان بددين، بى دين، قرمطى واتهام مشابه اورا مى كشت واموالش را مصادره مى كرد. اكر اسپانيا در طول ٧٠٠ سال دهها هزار بددين را كشت، ((سلطان محمود دريك سال (٤٢١ هجرى قمرى) پنجاه هزار انسان رادر رى به اتهام قرمطى كشت) (باسورث، ٥٢ :١٣٧٨). به همين خاطر فردوسى مى سرايد: زيان كسان از پى سود خويش بجويند و دين اندر آرند به پيش

ذهن بشر مانند زمين بكرى است كه هر بذرى در آن كاشته شود، همان سبز مى شود. اكر زمين مستعد وبذر مرغوب باشد، محصول خوبى حاصل مى شود، در غير اين صورت اميد به برداشت محصول خوب نيست. بنابراين، هر نوع آموزشى كه در بدو طفوليت به نونهالان هر مملكتى بدهند، همان آموخته ها مظروف ذهن آنها به شمار مى روند. از مكافات عمل غافل مشو گندم از گندم برويد جو ز جو (مولانا)

Next time you hear that an apparently perfect marriage between two perfectly well-matched partners is on the rocks, don't be too surprised. It's a clear case of set-up overestima-tion. Frankly, anyone who's spent more than five minutes in a relationship should already know that without ongoing fine-tuning and repairs, it doesn't work. All partnerships have to be consistently nurtured. The most common misunderstanding I encounter is that the good life is a stable state or condi-tion. Wrong. The good life is only achieved through constant readjustment.