Four steps to building a habit: 1. Cue: The cue triggers your brain to initiate a behavior. It is a bit of information that predict a reward. Your mind is continuously analyzing your internal and external environment for hints of where rewards are located. Because the cue is the first indication that we're close to a reward, it naturally leads to a craving. 2. Craving: Cravings are the motivational force behind every habit. Without some level of motivation or desire-without craving a change—we have no reason to act. 3. Response: The response is the actual habit you perform, which can take the form of a thought or an action. 4. Reward: The response delivers a reward. Rewards are the end goal of every habit. The cue is about noticing the reward. The craving is about wanting the reward. The response is about obtaining the reward. We chase rewards because they serve two purposes: (1) they satisfy us and (2) they teach us.

سلطان محمود، هركسى كه مذهبى غير از مذهب تسنن داشت، به عنوان بددين، بى دين، قرمطى واتهام مشابه اورا مى كشت واموالش را مصادره مى كرد. اكر اسپانيا در طول ٧٠٠ سال دهها هزار بددين را كشت، ((سلطان محمود دريك سال (٤٢١ هجرى قمرى) پنجاه هزار انسان رادر رى به اتهام قرمطى كشت) (باسورث، ٥٢ :١٣٧٨). به همين خاطر فردوسى مى سرايد: زيان كسان از پى سود خويش بجويند و دين اندر آرند به پيش

ذهن بشر مانند زمين بكرى است كه هر بذرى در آن كاشته شود، همان سبز مى شود. اكر زمين مستعد وبذر مرغوب باشد، محصول خوبى حاصل مى شود، در غير اين صورت اميد به برداشت محصول خوب نيست. بنابراين، هر نوع آموزشى كه در بدو طفوليت به نونهالان هر مملكتى بدهند، همان آموخته ها مظروف ذهن آنها به شمار مى روند. از مكافات عمل غافل مشو گندم از گندم برويد جو ز جو (مولانا)

Next time you hear that an apparently perfect marriage between two perfectly well-matched partners is on the rocks, don't be too surprised. It's a clear case of set-up overestima-tion. Frankly, anyone who's spent more than five minutes in a relationship should already know that without ongoing fine-tuning and repairs, it doesn't work. All partnerships have to be consistently nurtured. The most common misunderstanding I encounter is that the good life is a stable state or condi-tion. Wrong. The good life is only achieved through constant readjustment.