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Ch.3 LIKING: Factors: 3. Compliments: Suppose you are at work and, in a meeting, your boss says something you consider very smart. It could be awkward and may appear self-serving to speak up and say so. What could you do instead?: during a coffee break or at the end of the meeting, tell the boss's assistant of your opinion: "You know, I thought what Sandy said about XYZ was brilliant." 1. because people want to be associated with good news in the minds of others and actively arrange for it, the assistant will most probably tell your boss what you said. 2. because you didn't offer your positive assessment for the boss's ears, no one (observers or boss) should assign you an unattractive ulterior motive. 3. because of what we know about the psychology of received compliments, your boss will believe your (sincere) praise and like you more for it.

Sary Influence, page 92 · March 6, 2024 Save to shelf
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