A note from Daniel

You don't need to be world famous for the issues of identity to have a deep effect on your ability to cut your losses. When you say, "I'm a teacher," or "I'm a coder," or "I'm a doctor," or "I'm a gamer," you're making a statement about WHO you are. Adults ask children, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" We don't ask, "What job do you want?" We are asking who they will be, not what they will do. This is a difference with quite a large distinction. When your identity is what you do, then what you do becomes hard to abandon, because it means quitting who you are.

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